Why will power does not work
It is all down to programming. Your conscious mind may have a clear understanding of what you would like to achieve but in the past, it wasn't a priority or a good idea, therefore your subconscious mind cannot perceive it.
It is like trying to open a word document in an Excel spreadsheet, there is clearly a mismatch. For example, with my Virtual Gastric Band Ditch the Diet clients. They tell me they know they need to cut down on the sugar BUT whenever they are bored, stressed or upset they NEED something sweet. The thing is, what they more often experience is the action of getting the sweet snack as being unconscious/automated and so they often don’t notice the snack until they have started to eat it and then it is too late. It is like trying to stop a dog chasing a rabbit once they have left your side, they know they shouldn’t do it, but it is in their programming.
We are all programmed from an early age when our brain waves are in a constant state of trance. Between the age of birth and approximately 7 years old, everything we see hear and experience becomes our reality our software programming. That’s why we don’t need to be reminded that something is dangerous if it is hot, not to walk out in front of a car or what muscles we need to relax and contract to ride a bicycle, it is just automatic. But what if you were rewarded with sweet things when you were good, or upset? what if you had a narcissistic parent and you struggled to know how to behave around them for fear of abuse?
What if you were constantly judged and criticised and therefore never felt good enough?
Well those experiences will have become your filter that you run today's reality through before you decide on the action you should take.
For example you have a really busy day, feel stressed and come home to relax, you go straight to the biscuit barrel whilst cooking dinner or the chocolate on the way home with a little voice in your head telling you “go on you deserve it you have worked really hard today cheer yourself up with something sweet or a few glasses of wine”. Once consumed you then feel frustrated with yourself for giving in and ruining your weight loss promise, but only afterwards. This is a classic symptom of automated programming.
Or maybe your new boss turns out to be a narcissistic and you find yourself second guessing your work, losing confidence, making mistakes, doubting y